Is it normal I still feel bad even though I’m trying to do good and redeem myself?

Yes it is. People hold on to regrets for a whole host of reasons. Some more understandable than others.

But being good is not a value. It doesn’t stay up or down and it doesn’t get “remedied” in the traditional way. The amount of caring for others you do is awesome.

And yet, not saying no is an extremely unhealthy habit. Everyone has boundaries, and other people don’t realize how things drain your energy if you don’t say no. If you’re not looking out for yourself, who is?

The things in your list, almost all of them are nice in theory, but in practice they can run you into the ground.

• battling your instincts and personality
• feeling very guilty about every little mistake
• doing odd jobs no matter the person or task or how much energy you have
• not saying no

Look at this list. This looks almost self-destructive. It’s a testament to you that you are able to survive considering all these habits, but this is way past noble.

Please say no if you feel you need to, never agree if you you really don’t want to, only do odd jobs if they are appropriate, extend some grace for all of your mistakes and never suppress your personality. These are selfish things, but you are the only one who can be selfish for you, so look out for yourself.

It’s good to reflect on things, but you are beating yourself down for it. That’s never appropriate, especially because people like you, who are self aware and want the best for others, are very much needed in this world.

Let’s say whatever you did that ended the marriage was bad, and they’d both be together if you didn’t do it.

You were 6. Even if you intended this, how the hell is a 6 year old gonna be able to grasp the consequences of their actions. People can do really bad things at any age, but at such a young age, most of the things that happen because of your actions are out of you hands.

Do other people blame you for it? Because that is fucked up. They should know better. You are already reflecting, but blaming literally never helps anyone. And that goes for yourself as well, don’t blame yourself, no matter what you did. You can take responsibility and try to repair the damage to the degree you can, but never blame yourself for not doing things that you are unable to do. Do your best, and that’s all you can do. Mistakes are par for the course.

Marriages are made of 2 people. You are not part of that marriage, even if you are part of the family. If your sole actions managed to split the marriage, that suggests so much else was going wrong. Did they trust each other enough? Why were they not able to handle whatever their child did? How come they didn’t make up again after whatever you did, or they didn’t at least try? See how many avenues those two have to fix it? But they didn’t. That’s not on anyone else, but them. A working marriage extends a truckload of trust, grace, and love to each other, and I suspect, even if your actions rocked the boat, that boat was a nut shell with fish sized holes in it. There’s no other way your actions could lead to this. Your actions might have been the match, but look at the barrels of gasoline that fueled the fire. At that point, there’s so many things that can destroy the marriage, because the marriage was very shakey in the first place.

Trying to think of the worst things you could have done to lead your parents to part, there’s nothing a 6 year can do that makes them responsible for it. Please don’t beat yourself down - the amount of self reflection you do leads me to think you are an awesome human being and people around you should be grateful for how much you care for them.

TL;DR There’s no way in hell you were or are responsible for what happened to your parents marriage, no matter what you did.

Aww they’re growing up to be a gold digger

I’m confused. Who is “they”? Who is addressing whom in the quote?

NGL giving them lots of grace, I can still see this being one employee lifting things and getting away with it. Ofc this is extending a whole olive tree to Bungie, but it’s still possible.

That said, there is a pattern suggesting at least someone has done this intentionally and managed to not get fired for it for quite a while and that’s very poor management. If it happened once, I could even see a stern talk, but if they’re not fired the second time they do it, that’s on management and on the whole company.

I’m, so sorry for the other artists and devs working on this game who basically get all of their work undermined by party fouls from someone else.

Imagine dancing and then suddenly: accidental sex!

You can do everything right that people taught you. But you only start living when you make mistakes, fuck up, and find the places where you belong, and a picture perfect life doesn’t bring you happiness; it’s rather shallow and lonely.

That paired with the realization that my mental disabilities will make me lonely for the rest of my life and there’s only so much I can do about it without having breakdowns.

then they came for the civilians. And I didn’t speak up, because I wasn’t a civilian.

Yeah Thomas Mann’s poem is still relevant and more people need to read it and understand it.

If you “only follow commands”, you are still implicated in every action. If you are a cop you are literally one of the checks in the system of checks and balances.

Yeah this one stings but it needs to be brought up, so we can make this way easier.

There’s gotta be a way to design this so users can partly skip the process of searching for a good platform. Maybe using a controversial AI solution for recommending a platform based on some Keywords from the user? Maybe just based on a random algorithm for trusted servers? Maybe as you interact we make it easy to switch servers and as soon as you like the feed you can join?

There’s gotta be something better. I hope we get there.

If we get to the point where people can overcome the entry barrier, I think this will also increase user retention and the overall fediverse literacy on the platforms themselves.

Would love some sources on that.

To my knowledge, brothers Grimm collected them and put them into text, and they were all pretty fucking horrific. Some stuff is really graphic.

The question of why kids didn’t mind comes up a lot and it had something to do with kids naturally not being able to empathize in cruelty and therefore able to basically emotionally detach from those parts. But I might be wrong on that, I don’t have sources for this rn.

Anyway, because your comment is so very different, I’d love to be wrong and to read up on it.

Not trying to distract from how shitty it is, but in the EU I’m pretty sure that’s illegal. They cannot stop you from deleting your own posts.

Me.

Pretty sure it’s been a while since we found well preserved historical items from the second world war.

That’s what my estrogen dealer told me as well

I mean whenever you ask “give me a beginner Linux distro” you will most likely still hear Ubuntu. Only recently have people started recommending Linux Mint to a similar degree. And everything else is regarded as more specialized, even very easy to use distros like pop os.

Every time we frack I get this feeling And every time we drill, I swear I can fly

It also suggests that boycotts are binary.

I’m sure you can see a noticeable decline in player retention for games from all 3 publishers vs the rest of the industry. And this goes for all of them.

Vibe coding is such a weird phrase to begin with. Why would you admit that your app runs on pure vibes in the first place?

THIS

Try to get this in writing, or document your day-to-day with this. Focus on the retaliation, the instances they tell you how you’re supposed to spend your money and maybe get coworkers to back you up and write that down.

The more clear evidence, the better. Lawyers love when you have a bunch of evidence in writing. Especially if it’s emails or similar directly from them that prove your case.

They’re cultured over there.

Madlad